10 Things My Husband Finally Gets

Over 3 months ago, my marriage completely fell apart. With the help of God and some great friends I feel like we are finally on the road to recovery. Now, our relationship is the best it’s ever been. Even with my down days, I have to remember how much better it is. I have to give him credit for the following 10 things that he has done and continues to do daily. I will stop looking at what our relationship had been, and look forward to what it's going to be.


  1. Saying “I love you so much!” Everyone says I love you, but adding so much means more! Especially from where we were at 3 months ago.
  2. Telling me that I’m beautiful. Even though I disagree with this comment, I don’t ever want him to stop saying it.
  3. When ending a phone conversation, saying I love you. You never know when that last time might be, so this is important.
  4. Kissing me like he means it. I know how weird this sounds, but have you ever been kissed out of habit? It’s like a peck on the cheek from a close friend. Not a good routine to get into. We were into that routine for almost 7 years or more of our marriage.
  5. Looking at me! Okay, I know this sounds weird. We went through many years that he would almost glance at me, but never really look at me. I could cut my hair into a stupid haircut and he would never even notice. Now I feel like he’s really, really looking at me.
  6. Sharing embarrassing I love you quotes on Facebook. Until this week he had never done this. I never thought that he would be that type of husband. I was embarrassed, not sure why, but I was. But, I’m so happy he did it. Make me realize how much he’s changed.
  7. Giving me reasons to say “Aaaaahhhhh.” Okay, I’m not there yet, but I’m close. My dear friend always says them for me, because she knows I’m not there yet. I think it’s because it’s never been a part of our marriage. He’s not the romantic type. Well, at least he didn’t used to be.
  8. Putting me first. I know, weird, right? We have been married almost 18 years and he has never put me first. I’m so happy that this last 3 months, he has tried so hard to put me first. I can see it and I can feel it.
  9. Being a great dad. He’s not had the best relationship with our kids, partly because I’ve done it all. But this last few months, he has really stepped up as a father. He’s been so much better about taking direction from me.
  10. He has a relationship with God. I never, ever thought this would be important or even possible in our marriage. I believe that the only way he has been capable of all of the above things is due to this relationship. There is no way that he could have ever improved this much without His help. Thank you Lord!! I’ve been needing this man.

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