How to Mend a Broken Heart


There are many ways to get a broken heart. A few of the many I have had over my lifetime; loss of a loved one, loss of great friends, loss of a significant other, loss of my marriage. Two things I want to clarify, the loss of my significant other was not what you think it was. He didn’t actually die, but if I didn’t “pretend” that he was dead, then the loss of my marriage was going to be permanent. I hope that clears that up.

I was thinking tonight about how humans do get over a broken heart. I started looking back on how far I have come in my journey with God. If it wasn’t for God’s grace, I would still be completely broken. Yes, there are times that I still feel like that, but it’s not nearly as severe as it was just a few short months ago. It’s taken lots of prayers, not only from me, but others that are close to me. I know and have faith that prayer works. Every once in a while, I’ll get stuck on an emotion from my past and let it overtake me. I’ve been trying to get better about praying about it. The reason that I say I’ve been trying to get better is because for years I would let that emotion completely overtake me and I would react in a not so good way, which started the downfall of my marriage. I know that I’m kind of being broad right now, but I really hope that you are getting the picture.

Our church did a study on Proverbs and the Broken Spirit, and we talked about a 5 step game plan. I honestly think that these are all tried and true for me. Without one, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
This 5 step process is;
  • Trust in God Proverbs 16:3 says Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. Pretty self explanatory, right. This is so hard to give up control over me life. Obviously, I have free will and the will to choose what I do, but knowing that in the end, it’s not my plan is a difficult concept.
  • Wisdom Proverbs 3:21-26 My son, let them not vanish from your sight; Keep sound wisdom and discretion, 22 So they will be life to your soul and adornment to your neck. 23 Then you will walk in your way securely and your foot will not stumble. 24 When you lie down, you will not be afraid; When you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. 25 Do not be afraid of sudden fear nor the onslaught of the wicked when it comes; 26 for the Lord will be your confidence and you will keep your foot from being caught. Okay, if I remember this right, basically, use your head instead of your heart.
  • Hope, Faith, & Love Proverbs 13:19 A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul, but fools detest turning from evil. Okay, I was having problems relating to this one, but if I can the last part, fools detest turning from evil.
  • Positive Mental Outlook Proverbs 14:30 A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. I know this one! I have been working really hard on this one. I’m actually proud of myself that I have done so good with this one. It’s amazing how one life-altering moment changed my whole outlook on life, and God had to re-mold me and shape me.
  • Talk & Listen To Friends. Proverbs 27:9 Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice. I cannot say enough about this verse. Without the friends that God placed in my life a few months ago, my husband and I would be stuck in the same downhill spiral. Thank you Lord!

I decided tonight to focus on how to fix my broken heart, rather than what my broken heart looks like. I absolutely need to concentrate on all of these steps and not focus on my fear, anxiety, or depression. My life is so different now. I feel happy more often, I’m getting sleep sometimes, I feel almost normal. Something that I have struggled with for a few months. I have a new respect for people that have been through something so devastating. This whole experience has definitely changed my outlook on life and others. I hope that when you see someone down that you take the time to really, really talk to them and pray for them, because unless you’ve been through something similar you might never know what lies deep in their heart.

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed. Psalm 34:18

Dear Lord, Thank you for rescuing me! Amen

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