Top 10 Attitudes to Change in 2015

The first step in any “quitting” program or anonymous program (ex. Alcoholics anonymous) is admitting you have a problem, right? Well, I don’t have one problem, I have 10! The following is a list of things that I need to stop doing! Soon! I’m guessing I’m not the only one that does these things, so I thought I’d just list them out. If anything, just to prove to myself months down the road that I’ve accomplished something!

1.    Stop worrying about things I can’t change. There has been so many decisions that I have made poorly in my life, but I can’t go back and change them.  

2.    What is in the past is in the past. Why do I think about it so much? I’m always thinking, why did I say that? Why did I do that? Or I’m wishing I was there……. Along with that is worrying about the future.  

3.    This Christmas I had two of my sisters down at the same time, I was so nervous, because they hadn’t spoken to each other in such a long time, and I’m the oldest and feel like I need to fix everything. But, what they did was up to them, I couldn’t change that. So, I guess, I have to take a step back and not worry about their relationship, I have enough troubles of my own. 

4.    I have to stop worrying about the relationships that I can’t and won’t have. I miss that forbidden relationship so much. But the fact that it was forbidden should tell me something. It should have never started in the first place.

5.    Overthinking is another one. I can sometimes get my feelings hurt by other people, and they don’t even know it.

6.    I have to stop being negative. In the last few months, I have started seeing the negative side to everything. 
7.    Being too critical of myself. I expect a lot of myself. The fact that I made a huge mistake in my marriage just about killed me. I’m not saying that I’m perfect, but I guess that I have to stop holding myself up, and come to the realization that I’m going to make mistakes.

8.    Overanalyzing…….Someone could say something to me and I’m always thinking, what’s their agenda? What are they not telling me? Or how did they mean that? I have a problem with taking things at face value and believing that people are being sincere.

9.    Be okay with being happy.  Enough said for now.

10. So what’s the biggest problem I have to overcome? I absolutely have to stop letting my emotions rule my life. Mind over emotions! 


Over the next few weeks, I will be writing blogs to further explain these in more detail and to explain ways that I’m going to combat each one. I’m hoping to also include a bible verse for each one. Things have got to get better; I’ve got to start living my life again, instead of just being present. 

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